When couples have been together for a long time, or when all their friends start popping the question, they may feel pressured to get engaged as well. But even if you’re madly in love, engagement isn’t necessarily the next move. Here are some signs you’re not ready to make that commitment yet.
You're not confident in yourself or you might be settling in the relationship - If you’re doubting your self-worth or feel like you’re settling with your partner because you figure this is “as good as it gets,” you should not be getting engaged.
You're actively looking for a new job - If your career is in flux, getting engaged could feel like a temporary fix for stability, but that’s not a good reason to do it. When your work life settles down, you may resent saying “yes,” or worse, regret saying “I do.”
You don't know where you want to live - Typically married couples settle down together, so if you don’t know where you want to live, that could be a sign you’re not ready for engagement yet.
You don't know if you want a family - If one person in the relationship is sure they want kids and the other partner doesn’t, you may want to hold off on getting engaged.
You're in your early 20s - Being really young when you get married can be a mistake because research shows our brains aren't even fully developed until our mid-20s, so we don’t know what we want. Couples who tie the knot as teens or in their early 20s have a higher divorce rate, so wait a few years until time is on your side.
The idea of it fills you with dread - This kind of goes without saying, but if the thought of being committed for life to your current partner makes you anxious, that’s a big red flag. Huge. But just because you don’t want to get married now doesn’t mean you should break up, just that you should slow down and wait for the wedding bells.
Source: Elite Daily